Last week I had the privilege of spending time with two of my closest friends from school, Abbi and Laura. Our friendship has spanned more than 15 years and survived many highs and lows. With this in mind I thought to share with you all a few tips regarding making and maintaining friendships that will last a lifetime.
1. The best mirror is an old friend.
We are all different and that is part of the beauty of life! I truly believe that it is our differences that make us stronger. So I rejoice because these dear friends are different enough to challenge me, yet similar enough to relate to me.
2. A friend for life is open to change in you.
Having met one another at the tender age of 11 we have obviously changed and developed over the years. We have each gained new interests, lived through a variety of experiences and developed our individual world views. This fact, however, has brought us closer as we introduce one another to new ideas and experiences. In the words of the great William Shakespeare;
“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.”
3. A friend for life requires effort.
What?! Yes I’m serious. If you want to keep a relationship alive you will have to work at it. Over the years of my friendship with Abbi and Laura we have lived many miles apart and been through very different life seasons, but through it all we have continued to keep in touch, meet up and maintain our friendship. I am so grateful to these girls for making the effort with me and endeavour to make the effort with them in return.
Never underestimate the benefits of close, loyal friends. Take the time now to think of a friend that you love and value. Now call them, text them or go and visit them! Take the time to do the things that matter most in this life, you’ll be glad you did.